I’m pretty sure that no one is born with the expectations that traumatic things will happen to them. We’re taught from a young age that yes, there will be good and bad days. Some days are going to be tougher than others, and we can either “run from it or learn from it” as said in Lion King. You take those words as a kid and laugh at the fact that Simba got hit with a stick and said that it hurt. It’s all fun and games until it’s time for you to actually face your past and learn from it. Then you get hit with the metaphorical stick. And that shit hurts.
It’s taken almost 2 years of therapy to even get a small grip of what I’m going through and why I feel the way I do. My negative core beliefs about myself are the pillars to my personality. I’ve grown as a person because of these pillars. I’m comfortable with where I’m at most of the time… Until I started deciding that inside needed some serious renovation, and the pillars to my personality needed to come down. The wall needed to come down to make room for improvements. But what happens when you take the main support of a home down? It crumbles. It falls. And that’s what I feel like right now.
Unboxing… what? 17, almost 18 years of trauma induced anxiety, depression, stress… My core beliefs of feeling worthless and inefficient. My core beliefs of never being good enough for anyone or anything. The constant battle to motivate myself to “be better”. Showered in toxic positivity, but pushing all of my issues aside. Sweeping it under a beautiful rug to hide all of the nastiness that I’ve dealt with in my life. Looks nice and tidy. But I’m a mess inside.
I fucking hate healing. I hate therapy because I hate feeling the shit I’m feeling. I hate revisiting shit that I’ve tried so hard to push back into a deep nothingness. Can’t it be like Inside Out where those fucking memories just fade forever? Why isn’t it as easy to change my core memories as it was in that movie?
I’m just fucking tired.