Honest question, and I would really like if everyone replied to this one in the comments. I am genuinely interested in seeing what people have to say about this situation right now.
You have a friend who has been going through some hard times lately. That friend is getting help now. But you notice a lot of the things that this friend says doesn’t make any sense, doesn’t add up, or just blatantly lies to people about their past life. Whether it’s for pity, for attention, or for whatever else kind of game they’re playing, what do you do to the others? Do you tell them that there is an imposter among us, or do you just let that imposter kill of the livelihood of these people with their manipulative lies?
Now see, I’m not usually the one to call people out on their shit when I see it happening in front me, especially if it doesn’t hurt anybody. But in this case, it is hurting people - to include myself and my good friend. It HURTS to see other people get DRAWN IN by this “cry wolf” scenario, especially when you know a lot of the back story, you know the truth, and it’s just fucking irritating.
I’m in therapy for me, but I think that this little “friendship” has gotten to the point where I cannot believe I lived in a lie for the last 1.5 years. How much have I been manipulated to think that all of these things were true? And you know what is crazy, is that a piece of me still wants to give benefit of the doubt and say that this person is just that fucking stupid to continue placing themselves in these dumbass situations…but ugh…
So - WHAT DO YOU DO? Do you expose this manipulative asshole? Or do you let the group fall down the rabbit hole of lies and deception? TOUGH RIGHT?