I don’t understand. Adults constantly say shit like, “oh your kids should know better” when a kid is crying or having a tantrum. Um, NO KAREN, my kid does not know how to fully regulate his feelings in a way that we as adults do, so he is going to cry and throw a tantrum because that’s the only way he knows how.
SECONDLY, why do we insist on “beating they ass” when they do end up having a tantrum!? To scare them into not feeling their full emotions?! So they know fear instead of compassion?! Support your child through their crying and guide them through their emotions so they learn how to regulate and feel them without losing their minds. Jeeeeeeez.
My son was crying and my mom would tell him, “HEY stop crying, you want palo (spanking)?” I asked her to kindly not speak to my son like that, and she became defensive saying she was just playing around. Maybe to her it was playful, but to me, that kind of “playfulness” was not the way I wanted to talk to my kid. Even if it’s just saying you’re going to spank them, the threat is still there. The fear is still there. So no, I don’t support that either.
I see posts on Facebook about people saying they’d beat their kid if they threw a tantrum (cause it’s not natural, amirite? *rolls eyes) Or that their kid would know better (okay, have kids plz.)